Does it make you want to give up? Does it make you think the world isn't supporting you? Think you're not good enough or don't deserve it? Perhaps you’ll remind yourself of past failures just to compound the belief, and then start to run an internal dialogue that supports you (because we so like to be right).
I recently met a girl of 18, who was taking an exam for the third time and convinced she was going to fail. Her confidence was going down, and stress levels going up. She had previously missed out on passing these exams by a matter of a few points, but before this she had always had amazing results at school and university. Now the pressure was on because she’d experienced her first fail, and this made it worse. As she sat down to study, she would remember the past failures, and start to tell herself she would probably fail again, this led to a lapse in concentration and she would find it impossible to study (hence making sure she was not well prepped for the exams, which would have lead to a self-fulfilling prophecy). Luckily she had the lady-balls to seek help, but I bet we can all relate to this in some way, I know I can.
If I paint a picture of a famous author, writer of 17 books, including a best-seller that has been translated into 38 languages and sold in over 100 countries, you'd probably see only their success and wouldn’t think about whether they had to face the thought of failure, especially not over and over again.
Author Susan Jeffers once received a rejection letter that said, 'Lady Di could be cycling nude down the street giving this book away and nobody would read it.’ Wow, what amazing feedback! Can you even imagine opening that kind of letter - knowing that someone actually took the time to write those words about something you had worked hard on and totally believed in.
This followed many other rejection letters and was written about her now best-selling, life-changing book, ‘Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway’. She says in the foreword of the book: 'So many publishers rejected it in the beginning that I almost gave up trying to have it published.’
But she didn't give up - she focused on what she wanted, and she was taking action…over and over again. She went on to find a publisher and created a phenomenon, changing thousands of other peoples' lives.
If you believe in something, whatever it is, don't give up on it. No matter how far away success sometimes seems, no matter what response you get from others, no matter how hard it looks now.
Believe in what you want, stay focused, take action and delete that thought of failure, choose to tell yourself instead that you are worthy – after all, a thought is exactly what it is.
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