The greater question that you can ask yourself now though is, how can I be different?
When I work with clients we set goals in a particularly empowering and compelling way, but always with a view to making sure living in the future is not part of the plan. Appreciating each day, each moment and each success is a fundamental part to living in and appreciating the present, whilst working towards the bigger goal we want.
The key is in recognising what you can learn, how you can react differently, and how you can approach the new year. Many people believe that we need to first have something, before we can be something. For example, when I make my millions then I will be happy, or when I find love then I will be confident. How can you start by being happy? How can you start by being confident? Simply put, with daily practice.
*Dr. Wayne W. Dyer wrote these fabulous top tips for living in the present moment:
1. Remember that habits are changed by practicing new behavior. By practicing new thinking every five minutes, you’ll soon begin to master the art of present-moment living.
2. Do an honest assessment of your “problems.” You’ll very likely discover that almost all of your problems are really in your head and not located in reality.
3. Take time to be mindful of everything around you. Begin to look at your entire surroundings in a new light. Observe every detail on every face, every building and every object. If you do this often enough it will become a habit that will facilitate your being alive in every moment of the year.
4. Change your attitude. Begin an attitude-redevelopment plan. That means practice enjoying everything you do.
5. Be specific about what you want and take action. Decide on one thing that you would like to work on and do it today. Work at it daily, rather than making it a long-range objective.
6. Create a self-improvement agenda for yourself. Put on your agenda whatever activities you’ve always thought about but never had time to do. Do them now.
7. Rid yourself of mundane chores that are not really that important. Spend more time making your life a pleasure.
8. Eliminate procrastination as a lifestyle. Instead of talking to yourself about what you are going to do next week or even tomorrow, use this time to start a new task.
9. Don’t give up control of your life to others. You cannot enjoy the present moment if you are busy trying to make everyone else like you. People respect you more when you operate from a position of strength and self-reliance.
10. Feel good about yourself. You are a magnificent human being. Always feel good about that self that you are always with.
(*Taken from https://www.facebook.com/drwaynedyer)
When setting goals do not ask for what you want, this is living in the future, but state it for the date, as if it is now i.e It is now 28th July 2015 and I am..., give yourself the visual so that you can create those feelings and then every day see it and feel it, take positive action and complete the stepping stones for that one day, appreciating and giving gratitude to the mini-goals achieved in that moment.
If all you do is worry about the big goal, you can create stress and overwhelm, a huge reason why many stop working on their resolutions eight days into the new year. Today is a good day to let go of past negative emotions that do not serve you, and create new, more positive and empowering emotions to take with you, every day, into the New Year.
Be Brave, Be Beautiful...and a very Happy and Holsam New Year.