Outside your door you notice there is a person, loitering, in the dark... their face isn't clear but something in the way they hold themselves leads you to believe they are sad, or hurt, or perhaps afraid.
What would you do?
OK let's get real - I suspect you may call the police... but what if you just got a sense they were there for you, to tell you something perhaps? Maybe then you might call for support, perhaps from a loved one already inside the house, but then you may get curious, and want to know what is the purpose of this unwelcome visitor.
And perhaps you face it, call out to it...and this person tells you it's name is 'Need' and Need is there to serve you; except Need unnerves you, Need makes you do or say things that doesn't help you to get what you want. You watch Need from the window and worry about what it will look like, what others will think of this Need, hanging around, making you feel worried, stressed, self-conscious and a little desperate.
So what then would life look like without Need?
Often when we have goals and we don't get them it is worth facing up to why not - and one reason maybe that 'need' is lurking - so what does that need represent for you?
Perhaps you want to start a new business but it 'needs' to work to make you money, or you want a new job, but there is a deeper sense of 'need' because you hope this will increase your sense of self-worth.
If 90% of our communication happens through our unconscious doing, such as our body language, or the words we choose to use i.e our physiology, then it would make sense that a sense of need will be conveyed to the people we are communicating with, no matter how well we think we are hiding it. Going along to an interview when you need a job will give you an air of desperation - ever noticed how it's the jobs you don't much care for that you tend to get offered more easily than the ones you REALLY want! When you can let go of 'need' you can relax, be more confident and give the interviewee the sense that you really are the one they are looking for (likewise in relationships - imagine how off-putting someone is who comes across as needy on the first date!).
Think about how you can remove that need:
Need money - what for? How can you make sure you have enough to be relaxed around this area first? Perhaps you can spend some time looking at your finances and working out what you have, and how much is necessary to live..this alone may be enough to alleviate the need.
Need happiness, confidence, a sense of self-worth? How can you find this some other way, from within? Get writing and noticing all that you have, a gratitude journal, meditation... all of these things can help you to highlight some other way to know that you already have this, enabling you to let go of the need and set your intentions with positive instruction.
For example, with need I may want more money to help me feel more relaxed, less stressed, more confident and happier (note the 'comparative' has a focus on what I don't have now). Remove need and my goal of £5k more a month is so that I can spend time with family, help to support others, travel, grow, learn and develop. Do you see the difference?
If you suspect that 'Need' is lurking outside your door, take a minute to sit down with it, find out it's intention and then work out how you can say goodbye to 'Need' and hello to the life you suspect is waiting for you.