In exercise I like the idea of Pilates – the problem is, it felt too easy and if I am not sweating buckets I think I’m cheating (maybe I am, how can anyone know I am doing a pelvic floor right?). I used to feel the same about work too. If I didn’t literally bleed over it I’d feel like I hadn’t earned it, like somewhere there was a candid camera catching me out; this feeling is a more commonly known symptom of ‘imposter syndrome’. Phew - a diagnosis!
The beliefs we are given from a young age contribute massively to this; our school, the media, the news, the generations before us…but life has changed. We have the World Wide Web for a start, making it far easier to work smarter.
Now I choose acceptance and I admit, I like short cuts aka working smart. I like earning money for doing things I enjoy that feels easy to me. I like going to bed at a normal time and waking up fresh and full of ideas…then working from my bed until midday if I so desire.
It is all about changing our beliefs and perceptions around what lazy and hard working really mean. Can you relate to any of these beliefs?
Belief Replace With
You have to work hard to get wealthy I provide real value for others and ask for a good price
I am too lazy to earn a lot I am relaxed about being ambitious, I can work smart
It’s selfish to want a lot of money The money I earn shows the value I create for others
Money is the root of all evil Money is neutral source to do good with my life
You can’t get paid to do what you love I love and value what I do and charge the right price
As humans we look for our purpose and meaning in life, often wrapping that up into the career that means we are working our way to financial freedom. This job is traditionally better known as the career that is high profile, stressful, and at the end of the day we KNOW we have earned that salary but we are too knackered to enjoy it, so we adopt the ‘work hard/play hard’ mentality and live for long and luxurious holidays and retirement. But what if we organise our laziness, accept it as the part of us that just wants to chill out and be laid back. What if we outsource, or create products that don’t need us there all of the time; could you let go a little and embrace your lazy?
A friend of mine has been working in music for years, she does it because she loves it, and she is very very good at it. Some time ago she slipped into a little rut (you know the ones that feel more like a massive gaping chasm with no way out, and more and more things seem to keep happening to make it worse), and then a fan offered a financial ‘air lift’ out. The universe was really looking out for her, and why wouldn’t it? She is an amazingly talented and giving person…yet she promised this fan all sorts of products and gifts in return, she wanted to work really hard to pay him back and came up with all sorts of creative and time consuming ways to do it. What she missed was that her music had already pulled him out of many many ruts in the past and this was his way of saying thank you, this was her true value returned. But that was too easy.
I have worked with many clients who have had similar stories; take the time that money was offered by the boss to pay for the personal development programme a client had already paid for. She thought about investing in coaching for weeks, worrying about where the money would come from, and in the end took a leap of faith and delved into her holiday money. In that moment, through that one action, she said to the universe, this is important and I am going to do what it takes. Two weeks later she was offered the money from her boss on the grounds it was professional development... and she turned it down. Why? It felt too easy.
If you are doing the right thing and you believe in it, then life should be easy. We only have the one, so why believe it’s going to be hard. I say, be smart lazy. It works.