We generally change ourselves for one of two reasons: inspiration or desperation. - Jim Rohn
Which begs a question - if they aren't asking then perhaps it's not a problem for them, so whose problem is it?
Let me be clear here. I know the good and caring among us want to help others; I am guilty of this and am only just learning to let it go if someone else is actually happy being miserable. You know the ones, the people who complain all the time about a job, but never leave (or even make the time to look for another position); the people who are upset with partners, but don't communicate their concerns with them; the people who say they are lonely, and then sit at home without picking up the phone to others who care; the people who feel uncomfortable with their weight and tell you their problems whilst eating another slice of cake; the people who want to win the lottery and don't play it, or just want more money, and make no effort to make it.
Your problem comes in when you 'try to help' them, and they appear to listen, they may even make the right noises, they agree with you, yes, they'll do something... and then they go all out and do a big fat nothing. Then whose problem is it? If you are now irritated, frustrated, angry, or even hurt by another then you are giving them the power, and you are the one with the negative emotions. They are uncomfortably comfortable - and they like it there! (I covered this in an earlier post about labelling - click on the link to find out more).
So in summary, don't make their problem your problem - ask yourself how it is a problem for you, and then deal with it in the best way to make YOU happy, that may be what they need to inspire them to change and it'll be much less stressful for you in the long run! Be brave. x