It isn't often that I post about politics (as in, never)  but waking up this morning and switching on my social media channels I was hit with a wall of negativity that crumbled as if hit by a tsunami, getting me full in the face and stabbing me in the heart. 

My friends and family shared post after post, using words like, angry, sad, disappointed and afraid... and I felt it too. Why? Because they were feeling it. because we are going into the unknown. The negative energy behind their words was creating a fear and sadness in me, where in truth, my life as it is right now is just as great as it was yesterday.


The simple fact is, we don't know what will happen, we can only listen to predictions and buy into them.  Which ones we buy into is our choice, and this choice will determine our actions. Another choice we made was electing a party in the UK who was promising a referendum on the EU leave or remain campaign. We chose this....did we choose it so we could keep things as they are? I doubt it.

Whilst I myself voted remain, the percentage of the leave/remain results was about as clear as I was on my decision. I ignored the majority of the campaign from the politicians on both sides, because I felt that both sides largely tapped into the UK's fears and angers, and I honestly could see positives in both choices. 

The simple fact is that the EU and the UK was a relationship that wasn't working as it should, where the majority of people are happy about it; David Cameron spoke on behalf of the nation to try to make it work, and the EU could not compromise enough to maintain the relationship.

So I reflect on relationships that I have been in that have not worked; I have tried to resolve our differences first, but if my partner cannot meet my needs or compromise to a point that I am happy, I have walked away. Does that mean I have walked away to be completely alone in the world, no! Of course I still have a support network. Have I turned into a quivering mess, no! I choose to take each relationship as feedback, not just on them, but on myself. I could worry about who or what is going to be affected, such as my financial situation or my loved ones, I could imagine myself alone and sad,  but I don't, I focus on what positives are likely to happen in the future as a result. I take my learnings, I say goodbye with love and respect, and I even maintain a sporadic contact that offers mutual support. My hope is that the UK can do the same, and certainly, as individuals, we can choose to find the positives in this change and be fundamental in making sure it is managed well.

The simple fact is, over half of the UK were unhappy, and as negativity is four times stronger than positivity, their unhappiness with the situation means that the situation cannot work for anyone in the long term. This result is not just about your relationship with the EU, but your relationship with each other. 

This is an opportunity for us to get things right; to learn and to do things better.

How many people stick with what they know because it feels safe? The uncomfortable comfort-zone. Be honest, have you ever stuck in a relationship you are not completely happy in? What about a job you don't like? And when you finally leave, which is inevitable, you'll wish you'd done it years before.

I am proud to be British and brave as we move forward together and change with the times. 

​What is NLP? What does it even stand for? It’s a catchy, roll off the tongue phase hey? NOT!!!
 
Let’s not focus on what it stands for or even what it means, let me share with you what it can do, that to me is the most important thing when I am working with clients around the globe and teaching others to become Ultimate Coaches.
 
With my understanding of the NLP processes, which is basically a step by step, follow the dots on how to achieve a better life kinda thing. Let me give you an example, I was recently working with a seven-year-old who is still wetting the bed, I followed the steps and after one 60-minute session, the child is dry and building in confidence. This has nothing to do with me really, it is the study of how others have over come the same problem and this is then extracted and popped into a handy follow the steps process. Sure you need to have an understanding of what is going on in the client’s neurology, you need to know how to get the client to relax with you, to play full out, to be themselves.
 
NLP is not magic, it is not some mystical tree hugging full moon stuff, it is easy and it just works. Whether we are helping a client to over come a fear, phobia, habit, addition, self sabotage, anxiety, depression and the list goes on, basically anytime a human being is doing something inside their mind that is unhelpful then NLP can generally, used well, help.
 
To the client it does seem like magic, they will say things like “If I had known it would be so simple then I would have come to see you years ago.” Sometimes they feel you have done something to them, but alas no, they have made the changes themselves, all you did was hold the remote control and hit the right buttons.
 
With NLP you can change your life, shape it and tweak it until you are living your ultimate life, you can also help others change theirs. I have been in personal development for 30 years and started my love affair with NLP in 2005, I felt like I had been given the key to the treasure chest, the ONE set of tools that can make real changes that last.
 
I set up my own company Your Life Live It in 2005 and encouraged other coaches to join me, get NLP’d and really help, not just thinking we are helping, but really changing lives one at a time. I now license my brand and help new coaches to get working as soon as possible, we supply a business in a box and do some hand holding. We now have 20 Coaches world wide and we are growing, many coaches come on our Ultimate Coaching course to get the real deal, to have the key to that treasure chest of change. Simple steps of excellence I like to call the real gig, most others might call it NLP.

Dr. Amanda Mortimer

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