Envy is not an attractive trait, but it is feedback, as is any negative and positive emotion that you may experience. Obviously if you find yourself with positive emotions the feedback is 'more of that please' but the negative can also be listened to to help make changes in your life, so that you can get what you want.
So let's say you want the kind of success that you believe your friend has; as you think of her, what qualities would you say best describe her? Is she determined, motivated, confident, happy-go--lucky? Is she focused, open-minded, caring? Do you notice how she lights up a room, or does she make you feel special by listening? It doesn't have to be a friend, you could take someone you don't know who you deem as successful - Richard Branson? Lily Allen? Mother Teresa? You may not know them, but you can study them, read about them and just watch them (without being a creepy weirdo about it!).
We all have access to these resources, some we currently apply in other areas of our lives, some we have forgotten how to use, but we all have them - so which resources do you need to access to be what you want to achieve?
A couple of weeks ago the winner of the 'Brave and Beautiful' Awards was announced, and the interviews to determine that winner were fascinating to me, because time and again the same qualities presented. These women were nominated by their friends, family and colleagues, all for completely different reasons; all had completely different experiences and stories to tell - yet the personal qualities that shone through from each woman was the same.
So have a think about the person in your life that you would study for their sheer ability to be excellent, and see if you can spot any of the same traits:
1) They all had love and compassion for others:
One of our finalists was nominated because of her support of others. Kassi-Jayne Marshall said "It makes me feel positive, knowing I can make a difference. The world would be a really desperate place if no-one helped each other and it really doesn't take much to make others happy. As the saying goes, a smile is contagious."
One finalist put organising her own wedding secondary to someone in need, doing all she could to be a great friend. Lucy Ball said "I tried to focus on things that would make life a bit easier for her - and for those who care about her".
3) They all believed that it was possible (and yes they had moments of doubt, but deep down, held onto the belief):
Our amazing winner of the awards maintains her belief that you can do anything you set your mind to. Helen Sanders said, 'There is always a way if you really want to do something - if the first way doesn't work, find another way! If there is a wall in the way, get over it or through it or smash it down!'
4) They all used their negative to create a positive:
One of our finalists had experienced depression and came out of the other side to create all female comedy nights, creating both opportunities and plenty of laughs. Jane Duffus said "I decided to do something about it, rather than just thinking about it."
5) They kept moving forward by taking positive action:
One finalist said that resilience and resourcefulness kept her going, even when money or time stresses seemed like a reason to stop . Nikki Carter said 'I am passionate about what the centre stands for and really believe in it. I just cannot give up. It is too easy to stand back and do nothing in society - that is not an option for me.'
Jim Rohn once said that we either change out of inspiration or desperation. You can use the stories of those around you to inspire you to live your life to it's fullest potential - waiting until stress knocks loudly at your door is one thing, waiting until it barges in and knocks you down can be avoided.
Choose to make the changes that you need to make today, access your resources that are inside of you, and go for what you really want.
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