Living life in the amazing is whatever that means for you, but for some this means envying the ones who have the life you think is not possible for you, this is why the personal breakthrough is all about breaking out of old patterns and beliefs to make room for who you are truly are and were born to be.
When I was growing up I couldn't wait to be seen as 'grown up' - yet now I do all I can to stay young, and I'm not talking hair dye and anti-wrinkle cream! Mentally being youthful and experiencing play is one of the most important ways to achieve balance, doing what you love and loving what you do, being creative, having fun, being curious and experimenting with ideas, stepping out of the comfort-zone, understanding that a mistake isn't the end of the world but a beginning of a new chapter with a new learning....
....it is this that takes me travelling; it literally takes me out of the comfort-zone that, in our world full of convenience and luxury, can be so easy to forget that we are even in. One of my biggest dreams was to have a business where I was not only doing something I was passionate about, helping others in positive change, but one that allowed me to include my personal loves, such as writing and travelling. I focused on the image of working abroad but whilst away this year I also continued to work with three of my amazing clients, all at different places in their journey, and realised then that I literally have achieved my dream. In these moments it's so important to make time to step back from your path on occasion and realise you have achieved exactly what you wanted...even when it may be that you got exactly what you said you didn't want (remembering that the unconscious mind doesn't do well with negative instruction)! It's all there for us to see how to move forward, be that in doing things differently, or keep doing the same if it's working for you! Remember the be, do, have principle - start with the positive thoughts and emotions.
My chosen destination this year was Morocco, a beautiful place, so rich in culture, and after a short escape to the mountains I went to the coast, where I decided to take a surf lesson... and this is where I met a lovely surf instructor (too beautiful to really be teaching anyone who is clearly going to spend too much time looking like a drowned rat and needs to focus on the learning, but an amazing teacher all the same).
Surfing waves that are coming at you whether or not you are ready is a challenge, yet one we all need to learn how to handle successfully at some point in life...so it was this in mind that I listened to the instructor's advice to me as I scrambled onto my board and paddled like a crazy, struggling to stand up and fall off with grace - consciously incompetent.
The rules of surfing
- Trust yourself
- Feel the waves and believe you can ride them
- Focus on what you want and where you are going....just follow your heart
- Stop thinking so much and let go
- Let yourself connect to nature
- Allow yourself to be in the moment
In the end I tried to drown out the instructions whilst I focused on doing all of these things, but what magical, wonderful lessons within a lesson. NLP is essentially a study of excellence, and these wise words can be applied to anything we want to achieve...just think back to a time that you were successful, how did you do that, how did you feel, what were you thinking...I'll bet you had belief and focus at some level!
The instructor told me of a group of girls who had come to surf, but one girl stood back. When he asked her if she was joining the group she gestured towards her body, which she believed overweight, and joked 'do I look like a surfer?' In that moment my surf instructor instructed her into the water and within two hours she was riding a wave and crying with pride. Our beliefs are the only thing that limit our ability to reach our full potential, and all we need to do is step forward, out of that uncomfortable comfort-zone of negative self-talk, focus on what we want, and embrace the feelings of pride and happiness we can get from achieving something we once believed we couldn't. Can you imagine if she hadn't? She would never have known that feeling, the feeling of living life in the amazing.
The surf instructor wasn't the only person I met living their passion in Morocco. One man told me he had chosen a 'profession' to be a chef, but he found it hard and stressful...yet he carried on for years believing this was what work was supposed to be like. He told me 'one day I was introduced to horses by a friend, now I spend every day, riding on the beach with tourists, meeting new people and feeling free. I may only be 28 but I know you need to have passion in life, whatever age you are.' When you allow yourself to live in the moment the future can take care of itself.
Of course I'm not saying ditch the forward planning, but it really all depends on your priorities and values - what is important to you to have, who is it important for you to be? Take a step back now and work out what is propelling you forward; are you moving towards something for you, and what is the purpose of having it, what is your deeper why...
You can learn to stand alone and ride the challenging waves, but isn't it better to have support, to have some guidance on how to do it well, and in a way that won't tire you out so quickly, to learn new more positive habits that make it easier to get to where you are going much sooner, whilst unlearning old behaviours that, in the past, meant you kept falling off every time a wave hits (seriously, the Surfin USA Teen Wolf moves did me no favours). My surf lesson was the best two hours of my travels, not only because I got to ride the waves, but because I got a refresher in life's lessons, which incidentally, are all around us, when you are open to paying attention. There is only ever feedback after all.
Alternatively, if you want to have more tailored sessions that include an alternative form of coaching therapy to remove what has held you back in the past so that you can really break-free and get what you want with my one to one support simply contact me TODAY (sorry, no surf lessons are included, I'm not that good....yet!)
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